Most of us are very familiar with the meaning of “sour graping”, but only a handful know what “sweet lemoning” is. Although I learned the concept early in high school, I’ve only started to apply it last year when I learned to see the beauty that the world and life have to offer. Yes, I’m a late optimism-bloomer. After all, my husband did not nickname me “Rik-rik” and “El Reklamador” for nothing.
So what exactly is “sweet lemoning”? Well, it’s the opposite of sour graping; sweet lemoning is when one tries hard to look for the positive out of a horrible situation. A bit akin to the “When life hands you lemons, make lemonade” credo.
I started to realize I’ve done it (sweet lemoning) when Randy, Raviv and I went to Davao City last year sans any yaya. One day I was just so tired taking care of Raviv (a.k.a. the most malikot child of Rainbow School) that I wanted to scream and I was asking why I had to take care of this hyperactive toddler. And then I suddenly realized that I should be happy I am taking care of MY OWN child, unlike so many women who might be even more tired than I was taking care of others’ children while their own children were left to fend for themselves. I then hugged Raviv and my energy was renewed. I had sweet-lemoned!
These days, I’ve felt depressed because of a variety of reasons. Maybe it’s that time of the month, or maybe it’s the weather. Whatever, but I am listing the things that depress me, and point out why I have to be actually happy about them.
- I am happy I am complaining about being chubby for it means we can afford to buy delicious food. I should also be happy because I am JUST chubby and still far from being overweight despite that I’ve already given birth.
- I am happy I am always complaining about Raviv being very malikot and heavy, because it means he is a healthy boy.
- I am happy I am complaining that I have no time to meet all of my friends, because it means that I have so many friends who want to be with me, and that I also want to be with them.
- I am happy I am complaining that it always seems as though we need more teachers and household and office staff, because it means our services are being patronized. It also means we could give more people jobs.
- I am happy I am always complaining that Randy spends so much time with Raviv. Even though it means we rarely have our husband-and-wife moments together (both Rated GP and Rated R, hehe), it means that my husband is a super loving father. It also means that I got one of my wishes when I was pregnant–for my husband and son to be closer to each other rather than for me and my son to be closer.
I cannot enumerate every single thing I can complain about, but multiply every reklamo I have by 10–those are the things I have to be grateful about. 🙂