Yesterday I had an impromptu date with my college best friends. It was a simple dinner and bonggang chikahan. My friend Zaira fetched me. She left her car at our place while I drove us to the quaint restau where we dined.
While I was driving, my phone rang. It was our other ka-date, Chrys. I told Zaira to answer the phone.
Zaira: Huy Chrystela, ‘wag kang magulo at nagda-drive si Mrs. Ladaga. (Sabay nag-flirty laughs and giggles).
I think Chrys asked where we were because Zai continued:
Zaira: Palabas na kami ng subdivision…mamaya pa kami darating diyan kasi 5 km/hr ang takbo namin.
I was about to protest vehemently. Good thing I decided to check the speedometer (tama ba?) first. And true enough, I was really driving that slow. Hrmpft!
When we three were already seated, we couldn’t wait to blurt out our respective chimis–es. Of course, my chismax was about my preggers helper.
Zaira: Ba’t ganun ‘yung mga nagtatrabaho sa inyo puro nagjojowaan at nabubuntis?!? Pwede ba ako mag-apply sa inyo para mabuntis din ako? Sige na!
Anyway as we were eating, one chika led to another until we came to a point that we were sharing how much we love our friendship. Personally, Zai and Chrys are friends whom I’m most comfortable with. I have several other friends, and I also love their company. But Zai and Chrys and Kat (our “Eat, Pray, Love” ang peg friend in Germany) go a looong way back. Wala na kaming hiya-hiya. With them, I am no longer shy to show them how matakaw I am. They would even always remind me how pataygutom–esque I once pounced and slurped a forkful of Nissin’s Yakisoba. They told me that with the way I eat, I had no right to be carrying an LV or Balenciaga—pang-Secosana lang daw dapat ako! And we would all laugh. And when I cook and it’s palpak, they make fun of it to my face. No whispering behind me! I also like that I don’t need to be dainty and mahinhin and sosyal–sosyalan in front of them. Although I love the fact that we can be burgis–burgisan when we need to. But then afterwards we would all have a good laugh about talking in slang Taglish in a sugary-sweet voice for the sake of an audience.
Don’t you just love having friends like that?
I believe every girl has to have a friend who will accept her even when she is at her most “wa-poise” moment. It’s so difficult when, during a supposed fun out with friends, you still have to watch everything that you do because you fear that your friends will treat you like a pariah the minute you commit a faux pas. If all your chicas are like that, you need to look for other friends, I swear. I am not telling you to ditch your dainty and socialite friends–all I am saying is that it’s so good to have a friend or two with whom you can just be yourself. It just may be that you and your friends are not a match, that’s why you can’t be yourself around them. So yeah, look around.
I remember a friend ranting that his sister asked him to raise her allowance so she could keep up with her friends. She told her Kuya that if she doesn’t eat with them in restaus, she may lose her friends. I also couldn’t help but feel sorry for supposed friends for a long time who until now always have to be politically correct for fear of offending the other party. IMHO, being balahura is the way to go–after all, a true friend always knows you don’t mean to offend and that brutal frankness is the way sisters really operate.
I’m just glad that was never the case for the us. I remember when Zai was super broke in college. On her birthday, we were the ones who chipped in for her birthday celebration at the fanciest restau near UPLB. And to prove how comfy she was with us, eto kayo: when she saw the barely-touched calamares leftover on the other table, she got that plate, put it in our table, and started eating. Though we tried to stop her, she just said, “Eh sayang naman!” And we just laughed, but never made her forget that incident. Hehe. That’s how we are, and I love our dynamics. No pretensions whatsoever. We can be broke and there won’t be any judgment. Bawal mahiya kung walang pera kasi, “Ano naman kung poor-laloo ka ngayon?!?” But at the same time, we have that pride that we don’t take advantage of each one’s resources. We can also tell one another our kalokohan and we will give sensible advice, but we there’s no “holier than thou” effect. That’s why every time I’m out with them, I always have positive vibes. I am able to release whatever needs to be released (yes, kahit utot kaya kong i-release sa harap nila). And there’s no pressure at all. Like I said, no pretensions.
Anyway, right after dinner we went to my place. Gusto nilang makita yung helpers naming nagkabuntisan. Ang exciting ng gusto nilang activity, ‘di ba? :p We hung out in our bedroom because Randy was out in a wake, and Raviv wanted me to put him to sleep. And then they asked me to show them the Cath Kidston bags I have in stock. Tas ayun, nag-mowdel mowdel kami ng bags.
To many, our alcohol-less evening may be boring. But I had loads of fun and we were just laughing and laughing. Because if you’re with your true friends, dull moments do not exist.
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