When Raviv was still a baby, one of the things I promised not to do was brag about his intelligence on social media. It’s not that I didn’t value academics; on the contrary, it’s so important to me! Check my past blogs before I became Gymborized (that is, before I realized what things really matter for children), and you’ll know how obsessed I was with making a genius out of my son. However, the idea of brandishing on social media how great he is at school (in case) never appealed to me.
But I’m breaking my promise now. I am now telling you all that Raviv has made me soo proud…because of his academics.
For the first time since he went to school, Raviv took an exam in Septemtember (1st Quarterly Exam)!!! Coming from progressive schools, he has never experienced it before. It took me by surprise and I panicked, so I personally helped him review his lessons for his 1st Quarterly Exams. I simply told him that if he does not do well, he can’t be in Grade 1 next year and he’ll be classmates with the babies. So ayun, pumayag namang mag-review kami, hahaha! 😜
A few days after his exam, Raviv greeted Randy and me by showing the results of his test.
Juice ko, juice ko, juice ko—that’s what I was feeling as I scanned this piece of paper that contained his scores:
I couldn’t believe my eyes. 🙀 I felt like I was dreaming. Seryoso, si Raviv, naka-perfect?!? 🙀🙀🙀 Si Raviv na laro nang laro? Si Raviv na galing sa play-based school na feeling ng iba walang natututunan ang mga bata?!?
Si Raviv na anak ko?!? 😹
I thought it wasn’t a big deal for Randy, but he took a photo of Raviv and his exam result and excitedly posted it on Facebook.
A few months later, it was time for his 2nd Quarterly Exams. A part of me wished Raviv didn’t do so well on his 1st Quarterly Exams because, ehmerged, nakaka-pressure! But again, I told myself not to expect. Baka swerte lang nung 1st Quarter kasi madadali pa ang lessons. Tapos may Filipino subject pa ngayon, eh ngayon ko lang napatunayan na hindi pala pag-iinarte lang ng mga magulang ‘yung “Hirap ang anak ko sa Filipino.” 😭
Yet, I spent less time reviewing Raviv for his 2nd Quarterly Exams because:
- I reminded myself of what I learned from Gymboree: Children need to play. So I would review Raviv for 10-20 minutes only, then allow him to play again for hours. Then review again.
- I didn’t want to expect. I just wanted Raviv to be prepared and do his best.
In the morning before I got Raviv’s test results, I saw a Facebook memory that I posted on Instagram:
So yes, even if Raviv does not reach the high bar set by his 1st quarterly exam result, I know I’m still blessed to have him as my son. A few hours after I posted that, we fetched him from school.
And his exam results were out. 😱😱😱
Juice ko, juice ko, juice ko!!! That’s what I was feeling—AGAIN—as I scanned this piece of paper that contained his scores:
And again, I couldn’t believe my eyes!!! 😂 This time, I almost cried. For this wasn’t just Raviv’s victory—it was also my redemption.
Eto na, hahanash na ako. There’s another reason why I wasn’t able to help Raviv review as much as I wanted to: that’s because I was besieged with a lot of concerns (nanaman!) And I felt that I’m having problems because I’m already spending more time being a mom rather than being a career woman.
The “more time” for Raviv I’m talking about is still a pittance–kakarampot lang, I’m sure of that. But I was still made to feel that way early this week.
But as the week unfolded, I realized I do not regret throwing in a bit more time for my son. Look at how he rewarded me (ayan naiiyak na ako)!
On the other hand, I finally learned that the person who gave me “concerns” will always find ways to lambast our efforts. No matter what we do.
It’s sad that my son receives the short end of the stick because I spend much of my effort pleasing someone. What’s ironic is that while that someone finds great pleasure lambasting us, my son is busy finding the good in me even when I’m grouchy (because of my unrequited efforts for someone). Insert waterworks from me again. 😰
Truth be told, I didn’t blog this just to brag about my amazing son. It’s because I want to impart an important thing I learned: “Walang sayang na effort basta para sa anak.” 🤗
Happy Sunday! Looking forward to a stress-free week!