Last week, I finished reading Rich People Problems, the last book of Kevin Kwan’s Crazy Rich Asians trilogy. Reading it, you’ll realize that money really can’t buy genuine happiness. Kevin Kwan’s Rich trilogy are entertaining and hilarious, but in the middle of the books I would get bored by how ridiculous rich people’s problems were. Even though Kevin Kwan claims that these ridiculous rich people problems were inspired by real events, such as an arowana facelift—yeees, may ganun! But we shouldn’t be judgmental–I’m sure that really poor people also find legit middle class problems–such as parking space hanash–ridiculous.
Speaking of “rich”, I got concerned about our spending. Especially because Raviv seems to think na napupulot lang ang pera. Yaya Isay told me the conversation that she and Raviv had while they were walking on their way to Kumon, when they passed this eat-all-you-can buffet restaurant.
Raviv: Yaya, let’s eat there.
Isay: Ay ang mahal diyan, Raviv. Walang pera si Yaya.
Raviv: But di ba it’s just 500 pesos [per person]? 500 is not expensive. Mura lang ‘yun ah.
Then earlier today when Randy brought him to school, Randy reported their conversation.
Raviv: Tatay, I want us to have a swimming pool in our house.
Randy: We can’t; there’s no more space.
Randy: I’m not talking about our house in Los Banos. I’m talking about the house [we will have] that’s 30 million or something.
(Disclaimer: We aren’t buying a 30-million-peso house; Raviv just probably heard us talking about a beautiful house we like that costs approximately 30 million pesos)
I don’t know why Raviv talks like that! I hope it’s just because we don’t let him handle money yet, thus he has no idea of the value of money.
Still, I’ve gotten nervous that Randy and I may be throwing caution to the wind when it comes to spending kaya feeling ni Raviv eh Zobel de Ayala ang apelyido n’ya. Remember the shopping sprees I had? When I reread my blogpost about my shopping finds, a wave of guilt spread on me. It grew more when our helper, Alona, told me: “Ma’am hindi ka na nag-uukay. Puro brand new na ang binibili mo.”
When I backtracked, I realized that since Alona left in 2014 and returned in 2016, we’ve never gone in an ukay expedition again. I would just go to the mall and buy what my heart fancied. Then I also realized that I’ve become choosy when it comes to dining. It used to be that fast foods gave me my comfort food. I never cared about the ambiance and presentation, but now I’ve become choosy where to eat!!! 😓
And then once upon a time pre-Raviv, Randy and I would always choose the cheapest hotel accommodations when we travel. As in yung P1,000/night lang. But now, I can’t believe that we are actually talking about going to Amanpulo next year.
My gosh, nagmamayaman na talaga ako!!!
I think our “splurging” began when Raviv was born. Totoo pala talaga that you want to lay the world at your child’s feet. From feeding bottles to clothes to hospitals to car seats—we would give him the best. Soon we forgot our thrifty lifestyle because we did not want our unico hijo to be kawawa.
To be clear, we don’t owe anyone money–no loans, no monthly amortization…wala naman. We still have savings, mutual fund investments and insurances. Moreover, we also don’t spend more than what we earn.
But still, there’s that guilty feeling at the back of my mind that we are spending too much. I think it’s because of how I was brought up.
Oddly enough, I didn’t grow up poor. In fact, I don’t ever remember being in want. Everything I needed, my parents more than provided. But “need” is the operative term. Not “want”. Some of my friends who I think were “poorer” than we were had bigger allowances and had new toys and clothes more often than I did. In short, makunat din talaga ang mga magulang ko.
Especially Dad. His kakuriputan is the stuff of legends. My older cousin, Ate Jean, related to me that once during my brother’s birthday and Mom was out-of-town, about 10 of my brother’s friends came to our house. Eh walang handa si TJ! Dad had to act quickly: he bought a family-sized Coca Cola whose contents he poured to 10 small glasses with lots and lots of ice. ‘Yun na daw ‘yun, hahaha! And my penchant for extra extra rice? Blame it on Dad, too. For a small piece of meat I was required to eat a plateful of rice.
Mom is no better. Even though she knew I was a bookworm, she refused to buy me a set of encyclopedia or Funny komiks kasi mahal daw, even though almost everyone in our neighborhood had them (to think our neighbors’ children didn’t care about those reading materials). She has travelled the world as a respected researcher/scientist booked in the best hotels with a generous stipend. Buuut her suitcase is full of instant noodles for the extra days she’s not booked in a hotel because there’s no longer free food! Mahal daw ang pagkain sa abroad, and that’s when the Lucky Me noodles come in handy.
Ironically, Randy—who really grew up in poverty—is the one often convinces me that it’s OK to spend. He’s also kuripot, yes, but he’s better than me. He tells me that if spending would inspire me to work harder, then I should buy things I can afford that make me happy. I think that’s what made Randy successful, his “Word hard, play harder” attitude.
If you are like me who has a poor person mentality, let me share something with you. I saw this somewhere and reposted it on my Facebook page:
When we die, our money remains in the bank. Yet when we are alive, we don’t have enough money to spend. In reality, when we are gone, there is still a lot of money not spent.
A business tycoon in China passed away. His widow, left with $1.9 billion in the bank, married his chauffeur. His chauffeur said: “All the while, I thought I was working for my boss…it is only now, that I realize that my boss was, all the time, working for me!”
The cruel reality is: it is more important to live longer than to have more wealth. So we must strive to have a strong and healthy body; it really doesn’t matter who is working for whom. LIFE IS SHORT… ENJOY & LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST!!!
Love God and others more!
Take time to PRAY and Read the Word of God!
Drink Plenty of water.
EAT: Breakfast like a KING, Lunch like a Prince & Dinner like a pauper.
Live with the 3 E’s—Energy, Enthusiasm & Empathy.
Play good games.
Read more books than you did in 2016.
Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
Sleep for 7 hours.
Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, Smile.
Don’t overdo. Keep your limits.
Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
Dream more while you are awake.
Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present Happiness.
Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
Smile and Laugh More.
You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Call your family often.
Each day give something good to others.
Forgive everyone for everything.
Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
Try to make at least three people smile each day.
What other people think of you is none of your business.
Do the right thing!
GOD heals everything.
However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. The best is yet to come.
When awake in the morning Thank GOD for it.
Your Inner most is always happy…be HAPPY.
Have a blessed week, everyone!
PS: Kung puro ka utang, bayaran mo muna before you live life to the fullest. Hindi pa ito applicable sa ‘yo. =D Yes, magpuyat ka at magtipid nang bonggang-bongga para bayaran. Responsibilidad mo ‘yun.