Everyone seems to love Anne Curtis’s rustic wedding to Erwann Heusaff in New Zealand.
And one can easily see why: it was fun, intimate and charming.
That reminded me of the wedding Randy and I attended in September—Jet (that’s Garret to other people) and Ria’s wedding held at Marcia Adams in Alfonso, Cavite (part of Metro Tagaytay).
I’m a fan of bongga weddings—I appreciate great music, overflowing food and drinks, beautiful gowns, and grandiosely decorated churches and tables. So when Jet and Ria invited us to their wedding (9 months ahead of schedule, hehe) and told us that they will only have 30 guests, I thought it would be a blah wedding.
But as it turns out, it’s one of my most favorite weddings.
Here are the reasons why Randy and I loved Jet and Ria’s rustic garden wedding:
1. INVITATION: The invitation didn’t ask for monetary gifts and was handed out months in advance. I hope I don’t offend anyone with this, but for me this is a very important detail.
Regarding the being invited months in advance, I truly appreciate this because it allowed us ample time to fix our schedules. It showed that the couple didn’t expect us to drop everything at the last-minute just because we were invited. Moreover, we didn’t feel like we were last-minute additions. You know, substitutes because two people they really wanted to invite couldn’t come.
And about the asking of monetary gifts, I know that monetary gifts are what’s practical for newlyweds. Everyone knows that. Heck, money is always the practical gift in any occasion, actually. In fact on our own wedding, Randy and I really, really wanted our guests to just give us cash or check–I was tempted to indicate that desire on our invitation (after all, Randy has had his own house with complete furniture and appliances before we married). But I remember the first time I received an invitation where it was “cleverly” indicated that monetary gift is preferred: it turned me off. It made me feel like I had to pay an entrance fee to the wedding. Or I had to contribute/ambag to their wedding expenses.
Yes, I know it wasn’t required to give cash gift. But then if it’s on the invitation already, what does that mean ‘di ba? Plus, I did my research. Ethically speaking daw, it’s a no-no talaga to ask for cash gifts.
Requests for gifts of cash should never appear on the invitation, even if the request is stated in the form of a funny poem or a haiku. For this, couples should again rely on their wedding website, or on word-of-mouth dissemination.
I know that stating cash gift preferences are more common than otherwise, that’s why when I saw Ria and Jet’s invitation without any mention of cash gifts, I greatly admired them. They just really wanted us to be there, period.
2. WARM & INTIMATE: The 30 guests already included the entourage. Actually, almost everyone in attendance was a member of the entourage. Why did I like it? Because everyone who was there was happy to be there to celebrate Garret and Ria’s milestone. No one seemed disinterested, and it also didn’t feel stuffed.
When I asked Ria why they opted to keep the wedding guests to a minimum, she said, “Aside from practicality, we really wanted to keep the celebration intimate and solemn. We both experienced attending weddings as proxy or as plus one in the past; and it always gets a little awkward when either the bride or groom doesn’t know you…we didn’t want the same thing to happen to our wedding. Limiting the number of guests to 30 was very challenging so our rule was only to invite our immediate family, 5 pairs of primary sponsors, and a few friends that we’re both close with.
Because it was so intimate, the bride and groom were able to make each and every one of us feel special. It didn’t feel like a show so they were relaxed and were able to chitchat with us. It really felt like a gathering of their nearest and dearest, and at the end of the day we just felt honored we were among the few people whom they wanted to share what is probably the most important day for them.
3. SHORT & SWEET: Both the ceremony and reception were short and sweet. Let’s face it, couples who want to keep their guests entertained often end up boring them. Ria and Jet knew that most of the guests will be traveling for hours afterwards, so they did away with the usual she-bang that’s supposed to impress guests.
4. AMBIANCE: The breeze was cool, the rustic theme was whimsical, and the decorations were elegant and tasteful. The wild foliage in Marcia Adams in Alfonso, Cavite was a big part of its charm.
You can describe the decoration as simple, yet upon seeing the fusion of colors and flowers, I couldn’t help but sigh and get happy vibes. Everything is Instagram-worthy, including the rusty gates, hehe!
4. PERSONALIZED. Almost everything was personalized and carefully thought. I tremendously admire the amount of love and effort put into this wedding. Because the guests were very limited, each one was really made to feel very important as evidenced by the handwritten names on practically everything!
Randy and I realized just how much we loved Garret and Ria’s wedding because although we left Tagaytay late, we didn’t feel tired. We stayed until the program was over, but we were not fidgety or thinking up of excuses to leave early. We left in good spirits, and we felt extra special when we saw their giveaways.
Jet and Ria’s wedding made me realize that yes, it’s possible to have a beautiful (not the “Mairaos lang!”, hehe) wedding without breaking the bank. In fact Ria proudly told me that the money they spent for their wedding was money they actually had—they didn’t have to loan or ask help mairaos lang ang kasal nila.
Best of all, it also made me realize that the best weddings are those where every guest invited feels love all around them: the couple’s love for each other, the couple’s love for the guests, the couple’s love put into the occasion, and God’s love for everyone present.
Congratulations again, Mr. & Mrs. Sumagang! Thank you for having us!
The lovely photos are courtesy of Vital Image Photo, the official photographer of the Sumagang + Migo Nuptials (Yes, nuptialS dapat with an S, hehe), while the not-so-beautiful photos are courtesy of my camera phone. 😀
If you’re getting married and you also want to sure make your guests have a great time, check out this very informative article on Town & Country. It seems like Jet and Ria read this and took everything to heart that’s why their wedding is absolutely one for the books!